Pondering Life, and maybe selling Together Time......

[MacGyver]

I haven't been well for a bit of time. I am having a ton of issues with the divorce and have pondered selling a lot of my things. Everywhere I turn i am always reminded of her. And I am thinking maybe I have to reduce that.

Anyway, if anyone is interested in the boat please let me know..... I will probably sell her for the right price. Might even consider trades dependent on the boat. She will be loaded with every damn thing i can think of too.......

I start counseling in a few days due to some recent events....... I am just not well and it is probably time.

Thanks all.

Mac

[captronr]

Mac, thanks for posting this.  I'm happy to see that you are starting counseling. 

Before I retired, stress from my job was really getting me down.  I didn't even know why I was depressed, but all I did was work, come home, eat, go to bed.  Didn't even play with my kids.  Next day, I was at work before they got up. 

Fortunately, we knew a great counselor, and after FOUR visits with the DR, I realized how badly I was suffering from anxiety and depression.  He really was helpful to me, and got me on track.  Once I started seeing what was getting me down, it took me 4 pages of typed words to adequately describe it. 

You can sell your boat, but first I'd see if the counseling will help.

Best wishes,
Ron

[carry-on]

Mac, 
It seems to me it took a ton of courage to post about your situation. I hope you find good counsel and peace.
We have not met but I have read many of your posts about your work, your boat and your life. Seems you invest yourself 110% in whatever you do. I admire that.
You are a young man; life's road has many unknown turns. Fortunately, we can not see around the bend but with your courage and serious work ethic, I believe the journey for you can be great.
You are in my prayers.

[HenryC]

It's too easy to give out advice to someone you don't know, and whose problems are totally outside your experience.  All I can say is we all go through these times, and sometimes things seem hopeless.

They are not.  A year from now, things will be different, perhaps worse, but at least, different.  And more than likely, they will be better.  At any rate, times are changing.  The only advice I can give is that we all got through this at some time or another,  sometimes we have gone through it multiple times. and some of us are going through it right now. You are not alone, and your problems, however difficult they may be, are not unique.

You are very brave to seek out our counsel. That gives me confidence that you will make it through all right. I wish you the best of luck.

[BruceW]

Fish; ocean.

Road Trip!

[kickingbug1]

    if you think a little sailing would help, the boat and i stand ready.

[Salty19]

Hang in there Jason.  Henry is right; we all go through this and things will be different over time and probably will turn out a whole lot better.   

I'm not a very good consoler but available if you want to just talk about stuff.

One thing I will say is to think about why you have the boat (or anything else) in the first place.  Don't let her actions separate you from something you love just because it reminds you of her right now. As time moves along you might see things differently.

Now changing the boat name is a no-brainer, and a little picture burning in the back yard never hurt anyone either....

[Mas]

We have never met as well but i have found this forum to be full of genuine, caring folks. I cannot begin to offer advice other than to say that it is difficult to move forward when looking in the review mirror. We all have done it though. What I can say with total confidence is that as long as i have believed that the right thing will happen, I have been very grateful that some of my plans did not work out as intended, for it actually left me in better places than if they had. Hindsight is always a great teacher but not a good place to live.

An incredible human being once reminded me that time and money should be handled in similar fashion:

Yesterday is a cancelled check, it is spent and it's record always is there as a reminder of what we spent it for.
Tomorrow is a promissory note, it is not a guarantee of happening, only a promise and promises can get broken.
Today is cash....how ya gunna spend it?

As far as your boat......maybe it's time for another one, but don't move away from something, move towards something. That may mean another boat, it may not.

Best wishes and hopes the right things will happen.
Mas

[kickingbug1]

    you saw how easy the letters came off at the clr. you should remove them prior to sale anyway. most people would want an unnamed boat. i know i was happy when mine hadn't been named. if you do keep the boat two things to consider: don't rename it and two sail it.

[HeaveToo]

First thing:  Do what is right for you and look out for you first!!!!

Counseling is a good thing.  Been there, done that.  Divorce takes a TON out of you.  If you haven't heard of it, look up the divorce diet.  People tend to loose a ton of weight when going through a divorce or they gain a ton of it. 

When I went through my divorce it was horrible.  I never wanted to be another statics for divorce rates.  I wanted everything to work out etc.  Hindsight, it was one of the best things that happened to me because I was in a very bad marriage.

To compound things, for me, I had the tipple hit.  Divorce, lots of added job stress, and some health problems all hit at the same time.  To make matters even worse the stress of the type of work I do really started to weigh on me. 

Take time and think your way through things.  Fall back on  your support system, family, friends, and the friends that you have on places like this. 

I hope that things start getting better for you!

[HeaveToo]

Oh yeah.....There is hope out there.  There is a light at the end of the tunnel and it isn't a train.

As I said, retrospectively, the divorce was a blessing for me.  I never realized how toxic my marriage was until I stepped away from it.  It took a while to clear my head from the shock of it.

I move through the divorce, I ended up quitting my old job and getting a new one that was much healthier for me, and I deal with some depression that I was facing.  This is a big life change and don't take it lightly.